Say NO to Child Abuse

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Child Abuse is a physical, psychological maltreatment and sexual molestation of a child. It has become nowadays an international issue. No matter the location, every nation is showing a similar trend in child abuse. A statement released by UNICEF representative to India, states, “It is alarming that too many of these cases are children. One in three rape victims is a child. More than 7,200 children including infants are raped every year; experts believe many more cases go unreported. Given the stigma attached to rapes, especially when it comes to the children, this is most likely only the tip of the iceberg.”  

(please refer: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_sexual_abuse_in_India)

Childhood is the best phase of life and we should always cherish our childhood memories. But when our childhood memories are turned into trauma and pain, then we never wanted to them recall it back.

In India, there was a Study conducted on Child Abuse in the year 2007 by the Ministry of Women and Child Development of India, and the major findings were literally shocking to nature. It showed 

  • 53.22% of children reported having faced one or more forms of the sexual abuse. 
  • 50% abuses are persons known to the child or in a position of trust and responsibility
  • Two out of every Three children are physically abused, and they are abused by their parents.
  • Every second child reported facing emotional abuse (Please Refer: .https://www.childlineindia.org.in/pdf/MWCD-Child-Abuse-Report.pdf)

How can we identify an abuser pertaining to sexual assault?

An abuser is not different from us, neither he/she has got some special identity or looks. He/she is same like us, but the study reveals that they have got a charming personality, and they are able to grab the attention of kids very quickly. They spend substantially more time with kids. So, an alertness is needed from the parents so as to protect their kids from being assaulted.

Effects of Child Abuse

Child abuse severely affects the mental and as well as the physical development of a child. The children who have suffered abuse whether it is physical or sexual, they grow up experiencing insecurities, low self-esteem, and lack of development. Many abused children experience ongoing difficulties with trust, social withdrawal, trouble in school, and forming relationships.

Possible ways for adverse childhood experiences 

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We, the adults, can definitely Stop Child Abuse. 

  • Being an adult, we should support our children’s words and trust them. We should understand their feelings and behavior. We should listen to them, understand them what they are trying to express. 
  • Teach them about the sexual abuse. Conduct a friendly workshop with them which make them understand about ‘Good Touch and Bad Touch.’ 
  • Tell them that there should be no secret kept between them. If anything wrong happens to them, convey it directly to the parents or to the person they trust the most. 
  • And last but not the least, teach them the importance of the word ‘NO’. This word can act sometimes like a sword.

                                      Pic Courtesy: Swati Popat Vats


So, please come to a step forward, spread awareness, and say “NO” to Child Abuse.

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Eunuchs of India

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Transgender– a word related to a person whose sense of personal identity and gender does not correspond with their birth sex. In the Southern part of Asia, the countries like India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, they have got multiple names. The most common name is Hijra (which includes a person who is identified as transsexual, eunuch, or cross-dresser).


According to the Indian Census Report of 2014, the official count of this third-gender was 4.9 lakh. While the transgender activists estimated that the actual count would much higher than this official count.


The social and economic life of Hijras is very difficult and vulnerable. India’s shunned transgenders are struggling to survive. Most of the transgenders have to get themselves involved in sex work in order to earn a livelihood. Though the name of ‘Third-sex’ is already mentioned in many of our texts, our society is not ready to accept them in the mainstream. Hijras lives on fringes of our Indian society and had face numbers of discrimination and humiliation. 

We can see many hijras in sex work and be moving around in cities asking for money from families who are celebrating a marriage or the childbirth.  


Reena, a transgender, is now HIV positive. She needs to satisfy many of her clients giving sexual pleasure. But still, she has a hope that the things will change with the passage of days and night and there will be a time when they will be accepted in our society.


They are also a human being. The humiliation which they are facing is not because of their fault, God had made them like this, they can’t help it. 


India, however, does recognize legally transgender as a ‘third-gender’. separating them from male and female. Even Kochi Metro is the first government in the country who has given employment to 23 transgenders, who will be on duty from 17th June 2017.


On 24th April 2015, the Indian Parliament has passed the Rights of the Transgender Persons Bill, 2014 guaranteeing rights and entitlements, reservations in education and jobs where 2% is specifically for a government job, legal aid, pension, unemployment allowance and skill development for transgender people. In April 2017, Indian Ministry of Drinking water and Sanitation has also instructed states to allow transgenders to use public toilets of their choice. 


There are many transgender activists who are working for the rights of transgenders, but still, the journey is too far to complete. Most hijras live at the margins of society with very low status; the very word “hijra” is sometimes used in a derogatory manner. Violence against hijras, especially hijra sex workers, is often brutal and occurs in public spaces, police stations, prisons, and their homes. As with transgender people in most of the world, they face extreme discrimination in health, housing, education, employment, immigration, law, and any bureaucracy that is unable to place them into male or female gender categories.


We also accept that there some transgenders (they can be termed as Hijra Mafia) in our society who take this term as their business and also force others to get involved into this. Here, the teens are abducted from the public places and are forced to undergo sex change surgery and face a traumatic life of a eunuch. Castration is forced on them and ironically very few people get the courage to retaliate.  







Teenage And Perfectionism

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“Teenage‘ is the age group or within the age range of 13 years to 19 years, and the person who falls in this age bracket is called as a Teenager.

Teenage is an adolescence phase of life and often remarked as the stage of physical and the psychological development.

Perfectionism‘ is a psychological term which defines a particular personality trait of a person, wherein a person always strive for flawless performance and also try to gather applause and concern for others. So, when teenagers (or teens) run towards perfection, it shows that they are trying to copy style and behavior and sometimes even the lifestyle of others of whom they call up as an Idols.

Perfectionism is neither a mental disorder nor a state of depression but it often results in anxiety which further leads to loneliness and guilty. Such teens are in fear always. Fear of making mistakes, fear of which signifies failure and worthlessness.


So how can we understand that this teenager is having this perfectionist trait?

1. If he/she feels horrible for not accomplishing certain targeted goals.

2. If he/she is a Procrastinator.

3. If a child carries a fear of getting abandoned, if not become a Perfectionist.

4. Gets Short-tempered when with other people who are less than perfect.



Being a parent, it is highly necessary to help our teens to avoid carrying this trait. So, the following could be few of the remedies to this issue.

 

Step 1: Define Perfectionism to your child- First, try to educate your child about what perfectionism is all about. What are the consequences attached to it? Help them to understand its real side-effects. Perfectionism makes us over critical and anxious about everything. It becomes difficult to finish tasks with fun and enjoyment which results in frustration for everyone in family and friends.

 

Step 2: Teach positive statement- Speak up the positive statements like, “I will try my best next time”, “All fine, no one is perfect”, “Believe in you, even when you make mistake”. These statements generate the positivity in the environment and help to boost up the morale and confidence among the teens.

 

Step 3: Overcome Procrastination- Most of the teens become Procrastinator because they fear of failure or making mistakesEncourage them to set some realistic goals in life and make them understand about priorities and how to gain balance in accomplishing a certain task.

 

Remember, a Perfectionistic teen will become a Perfectionistic Adult which may carry a load of anxiety and loneliness. So, it will be good if we intervene them Today so as to make their Future happier.

IN BLUE

We all face fluctuations in our life. Sometimes, we feel Up and sometimes Down and this changes our mood and behaviour too. We feel happy and satisfied in our good times, and just opposite in our downtime.

But there are some people who experience the negative feelings of life intensely, and to be precise without having any specific reason. These feelings can be because of Stress, Relationships, Career Problems, Self-Esteem Issues, Social Rejections etc.These feelings are so intense in nature that a person starts secluding himself from his social environment. And when being asked about the reason, they actually say “I am okay!”

And this is called “A Depression” – a state of mind where we feel severe despondency and dejection.

Depression, though being a common, is a serious condition that affects you in complete negatively manner, and where you will be affecting your mental health and as well as your physical health.

Depression makes a person to feel always low in mood, guilty and worthless.

SYMPTOMS OF DEPRESSION

We all go through some negative thoughts in our mind, but it get fades away with day by day, but if these negativity approach doesn’t leaves you and you are depressed for more than two weeks, and also feeling miserable, guilty and worthless, you should consult with your doctor.

At the same time, not everyone face all the symptoms of depression.

PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS

  • Always there is a feeling of Sick and Dullness.
  • Sleeping Disorders – either feeling Excessively Sleepy or Insomniac.
  • Poor or Change in Appetite.

BEHAVIOURAL SYMPTOMS

  • Start secluding from social environment.
  • Feeling of dejection.
  • Crying for No Reason.
  • Becomes Alcoholic or get Addicted to Wrong Habits.
  • Poor Concentration.

THOUGHTS

  • “Nothing Good Ever Happens to Me”
  • “I am A Failure”
  • “I am Worthless.
  • “My Future is Dark”
  • “Life is not Worth Living”

FEELINGS

  • Irritable
  • Indecisive
  • Frustrated
  • Lack of Confidence.

If you or someone you know are facing Depression or facing above mentioned symptoms, Please consult your Doctor and Seek an Expert Advice and Get Support. Do not Ignore.”

TREATMENT FOR DEPRESSION

When we are Depressed, we feel lonely, so therefore the best treatment for this serious condition is TALK THERAPY. Talk Therapy is an extremely effective treatment for depression. Talk to the person who is depressed, ask him the reason behind being depressed, and more importantly Listen to him properly. In Depression, it becomes very difficult to express our feelings. Here, it feels like we are in dark and captured and unable to flee. So, Talk to Them!

Know the Reason of Depression. Sometimes, we feel too much depressed because of some medical grounds also. Prolonged Illness, Postpartum Depression, etc. can be the reason of some sort of depression. Here, in this case, the change of environment is very important. Create a happy living atmosphere, indulge in hobby-ideas, and social get-together generates a lot of positivism in life. So, know the reason and Act upon it.

Exercise. Regular exercise can be very much effective in treating depression as medication. It regulates the growth of new brain cells and also boost up the “feel-good” hormones.

Proper Diet. The proper intake of meals and having a balanced diet gives you more energy and power to work up on your daily routine. Eat-well and Live-well.

Medication, Expert Advice & Support. Despite of knowing everything about depression, it is always good to take an expert advice and support and also to follow the medications. This all will help to get faster recovery and good health.

Apart from the above-mentioned treatments there can be a lot many other ways too, but the main thing is to follow them. Remember, Depression is a serious illness, but it’s a CURABLE. Take proper Action in Correct time. There is never too late to Give Help or Seek Help.